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BEFORE THE SEVEN WEEKS AFTER THE SEVEN WEEKSCompleted on ______________
This is not a test, and there is no family score. Choose the description that best matches your ordinary life over the last 2–3 weeks—not your best day, your worst day, or what you hope will be true.
0 means your ordinary pattern is working against the good being measured.
5 means this good is deeply and consistently part of how you live.
A 5 does not mean perfect. There is always room to grow.
01 · KNOW & BE KNOWN · Being Known
How well do the people in your family know what is really going on in your life—your joys, hopes, burdens, fears, and questions?
0CLOSED OFF— I shut people out
1MOSTLY UNKNOWN— Mostly surface-level
2PARTLY KNOWN— Some real things shared
3GENUINELY KNOWN— Important things usually known
4WELL KNOWN— I regularly share real life
5DEEPLY KNOWN— Deeply and honestly known
02 · KNOW & BE KNOWN · Knowing Them
How well do you know what is really going on in the lives of the people in your family—their joys, hopes, burdens, fears, and questions?
0DISENGAGED— I disengage
1MOSTLY UNAWARE— Mostly surface facts
2SOMETIMES ATTENTIVE— Sometimes ask and listen
3GENUINELY AWARE— Usually know what matters
4ATTENTIVE— Regularly ask, listen, and notice
5DEEPLY ATTENTIVE— Deeply attentive to their real lives
03 · PRESENCE · Undivided Attention
When you are with your family, how well do you protect your attention from screens, devices, work, and other distractions?
0DISTRACTION WINS— Distraction regularly wins
1OFTEN DISTRACTED— Frequently pulled away
2INCONSISTENT— Sometimes put distractions aside
3USUALLY PRESENT— Usually protect meaningful moments
4INTENTIONALLY PRESENT— Deliberately create undistracted space
5DEEPLY PRESENT— Distractions rarely displace people
04 · PRESENCE · Meaningful Time
How consistently do you make meaningful, undistracted time to be with and listen to the people in your family?
0AVOIDED— I avoid making meaningful time
1RARE— Rarely protect time together
2OCCASIONAL— Sometimes make time; busyness often wins
3REGULAR— Meaningful time is a regular part of life
4INTENTIONAL— Regularly protect time to listen and enjoy
5BUILT IN— Woven into how I live
05 · LIFE WITH GOD · God in Daily Decisions
How consistently do you seek God’s guidance in the decisions and circumstances of ordinary life?
0LEAVING GOD OUT— Usually act without bringing choices to God
1RARELY SOUGHT— Rarely think to seek God
2SOMETIMES SOUGHT— Seek God mainly in bigger decisions
3REGULARLY SOUGHT— Often bring decisions to God
4GUIDED— Prayer regularly shapes decisions
5DEEPLY GUIDED— Seeking God’s will is a settled habit
06 · LIFE WITH GOD · Relationship with Jesus
How real and personal is your relationship with Jesus in ordinary life?
0KEEPING JESUS DISTANT— I keep Jesus out of my real life
1DISTANT— Mostly belief, idea, or obligation
2INTERMITTENT— Real moments, but irregular
3PERSONALLY REAL— Personally real in ordinary life
4CLOSE— Regularly speak, listen, and bring Him real life
5DEEPLY ROOTED— Central and deeply lived
07 · COMMUNION · Bringing Real Life to Prayer
How naturally does your family bring real joys, struggles, needs, and decisions to God together?
0PRAYER RESISTED— We avoid praying about real life
1RARE— Almost never bring real life to God
2OCCASIONAL— Mostly when something serious happens
3GROWING— Often, but still inconsistent or formal
4NATURAL— Normal to pause and pray about real life
5DEEPLY ROOTED— Turning to God together is a family reflex
08 · COMMUNION · Repairing Relationship
When you hurt someone or relationship breaks down in your family, how readily do you own your part, forgive, and seek repair?
0REPAIR RESISTED— I retaliate, blame, withdraw, or hold resentment
1RARELY REPAIRED— Hurts often remain unresolved
2INCONSISTENT— Sometimes repair; defensiveness often wins
3WILLING TO REPAIR— I usually return to seek repair
4READY TO REPAIR— I readily own, apologize, forgive, and reconnect
5DEEPLY RECONCILING— Reconciliation is a characteristic habit
If someone younger is answering
An adult may read the question aloud and explain unfamiliar words, but should not suggest an answer.
Ask:
“Which description sounds most like your real life?”
Let the child choose.
Skip the Inventory. They can still participate fully in the Family Challenge.
